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  • Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close
  • Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed
  • Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions and Hurtful Acts
  • The Bedwetter: Stories of Courage, Redemption, and Pee
  • Fuzz: When Nature Breaks the Law

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  • Lori Gottlieb
  • Dr. Carol Tavris
  • Dr. Laurie Santos
  • Shelly Johnson
  • Ricky Gervais
  • Celeste Ng
  • Angie Thomas

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  • Bully
  • Netizens
  • The Hate U Give

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  • The Happiness Lab

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  • Atypical
  • Little Fires Everywhere
  • Steven Universe
  • The Office (U.K.)

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    Shelly Johnson

    / All-or-Nothing Thinking, BEHAVIOR, Beliefs, Biases, Blame, Change, Complex Realities, Emotions, Empathy, Exclusionary Behavior, Extreme Thinking, Family, Fear of the Unknown, Freewill, Friendships, Gender Roles, Happiness, HEALTH, Hidden Motives, Ideologies, Independent Thinking, Individuality, Insincerity, KNOWLEDGE, Learning from Failures, LGBTQ Issues, Logical Ethics, Negative Thinking, Opinions, Other People Exist, Pride & Shame, Regrets, Relationships, Religious Thinking, THINKING, This or That Thinking, Unhealthy Behavior, What Should Be / By

    Shelly Johnson

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    Biography:

    Shelly was born and raised in the Mormon church, like all good Mormons, she married young and bred fast, having seven wonderful children to ensure she would get into Heaven and please her Mormon family.

    Not long after the birth of her seventh child, Shelly had a breakdown. She left the church, coming out of the closet and divorcing her husband. Now she’s doing her best trying to figure out life and heal from the trauma.

    This episode is a raw account of Shelly’s journey of liberation and awakening, as she undoes the shackles of conditioning, moves through guilt and experiences a full life for the first time in 40 years.

    Shelly shares how she thought her depression and anxiety was a sign that she was a sinner, it wasn’t until her partner Mary assured her that everything was going to be alright that she no longer had to pretend and life responded in the form of a gentle breeze on her shoulder.

    Together we explore her family’s response to her coming out as a lesbian and the incredible difference she is making in the lives of others as she and Mary host the insightful, funny and downright honest podcast called Latter Day Lesbian.

    Main expertice: All-or-Nothing Thinking, BEHAVIOR, Beliefs, Biases, Blame, Change, Complex Realities, Emotions, Empathy, Exclusionary Behavior, Extreme Thinking, Family, Fear of the Unknown, Freewill, Friendships, Gender Roles, Happiness, HEALTH, Hidden Motives, Ideologies, Independent Thinking, Individuality, Insincerity, KNOWLEDGE, Learning from Failures, LGBTQ Issues, Logical Ethics, Negative Thinking, Opinions, Other People Exist, Pride & Shame, Regrets, Relationships, Religious Thinking, THINKING, This or That Thinking, Unhealthy Behavior, and What Should Be

    Website: Link

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    Dr. Laurie Santos

    / All-or-Nothing Thinking, BEHAVIOR, Beliefs, Biases, Blame, Change, Competitive Thinking, Complex Realities, Cultures, Disasters and Tragedies, Emotions, Empathy, Extreme Thinking, Fear of the Unknown, Gender Roles, Happiness, HEALTH, Hidden Motives, Independent Thinking, Individuality, Information/Facts, KNOWLEDGE, Learning, Learning from Failures, Logical Ethics, Medical Experts, Mental Health, Negative Thinking, Other People Exist, Over-all Health, Planning, Pride & Shame, Quantity vs Quality, Regrets, Relationships, Revenge, Rewards and Punishments, Science, Social Skills, Societies, Teachers and Mentors, The Scientific Method, Therapy, THINKING, This or That Thinking, Unhealthy Behavior, What Should Be / By

    Dr. Laurie Santos

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    Biography:

    Dr. Laurie Santos is Professor of Psychology and Head of Silliman College at Yale University. Dr. Santos is an expert on human cognition and the cognitive biases that impede better choices. Her course, “Psychology and the Good Life,” teaches students what the science of psychology says about how to make wiser choices and live a life that’s happier and more fulfilling. The class is Yale’s most popular course in over 300 years and has been adapted into a free Coursera program that has been taken by over 3.3 million people to date. Dr. Santos has been featured in numerous news outlets including the New York Times, NBC Nightly News, The Today Show, CBS This Morning, NPR, GQ Magazine, Slate, CNN and O, The Oprah Magazine. Dr. Santos is a winner of numerous awards both for her science and teaching from institutions such as Yale and the American Psychological Association. She has been featured as one of Popular Science’s “Brilliant 10” young minds and was named TIME’s “Leading Campus Celebrity.” Her podcast, The Happiness Lab, launched in 2019 has over 35 million downloads.

    Main expertice: All-or-Nothing Thinking, BEHAVIOR, Beliefs, Biases, Blame, Change, Competitive Thinking, Complex Realities, Cultures, Disasters and Tragedies, Emotions, Empathy, Extreme Thinking, Fear of the Unknown, Gender Roles, Happiness, HEALTH, Hidden Motives, Independent Thinking, Individuality, Information/Facts, KNOWLEDGE, Learning, Learning from Failures, Logical Ethics, Medical Experts, Mental Health, Negative Thinking, Other People Exist, Over-all Health, Planning, Pride & Shame, Quantity vs Quality, Regrets, Relationships, Revenge, Rewards and Punishments, Science, Social Skills, Societies, Teachers and Mentors, The Scientific Method, Therapy, THINKING, This or That Thinking, Unhealthy Behavior, and What Should Be

    Website: Link

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    The Happiness Lab

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    The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos

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    Podcast Decription:

    You might think more money, a better job, or Instagram-worthy vacations would make you happy. You’re dead wrong. In “The Happiness Lab” podcast, Yale professor Dr Laurie Santos will take you through the latest scientific research and share some surprising and inspiring stories that will forever alter the way you think about happiness. She’s changed the lives of thousands of people through her class “Psychology and the Good Life,” and she’ll change yours, too.

    Categories: All-or-Nothing Thinking, BEHAVIOR, Beliefs, Biases, Blame, Change, Competitive Thinking, Complex Realities, Cultures, Disasters and Tragedies, Emotions, Empathy, Exclusionary Behavior, Extreme Thinking, Family, Fear of the Unknown, Friendships, Gender Roles, Happiness, HEALTH, Hidden Motives, Ideologies, Independent Thinking, Information/Facts, Insincerity, KNOWLEDGE, Learning, Learning from Failures, Logical Ethics, Medical Experts, Mental Health, Negative Thinking, Other People Exist, Over-all Health, Planning, Pride & Shame, Quantity vs Quality, Race and Racism, Regrets, Relationships, Science, Social Skills, Societies, Teachers and Mentors, Therapy, THINKING, This or That Thinking, Unhealthy Behavior, and What Should Be

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  • Dr. Laurie Santos

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    Netizens

    / Leave a Comment / All-or-Nothing Thinking, BEHAVIOR, Beliefs, Biases, Blame, Change, Competitive Thinking, Complex Realities, Cultures, Emotions, Empathy, Exclusionary Behavior, Extreme Thinking, Fear of the Unknown, Gender Roles, Happiness, HEALTH, Hidden Motives, Information/Facts, Insincerity, KNOWLEDGE, Leadership, Learning, Learning from Failures, Logical Ethics, Lying, Mental Health, Negative Thinking, Other People Exist, Over-all Health, Power, Pride & Shame, Regrets, Relationships, Revenge, Rewards and Punishments, Technology, The News Media, THINKING, This or That Thinking, Unhealthy Behavior, What Should Be / By

    Bully and Netizens

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    Expert: Cynthia Lowen

    Website: Link

    Release Date: 2018-01-01

    Categories: All-or-Nothing Thinking, BEHAVIOR, Beliefs, Biases, Blame, Change, Competitive Thinking, Complex Realities, Cultures, Emotions, Empathy, Exclusionary Behavior, Extreme Thinking, Fear of the Unknown, Gender Roles, Happiness, HEALTH, Hidden Motives, Information/Facts, Insincerity, KNOWLEDGE, Leadership, Learning, Learning from Failures, Logical Ethics, Lying, Mental Health, Negative Thinking, Other People Exist, Over-all Health, Power, Pride & Shame, Regrets, Relationships, Revenge, Rewards and Punishments, Technology, The News Media, THINKING, This or That Thinking, Unhealthy Behavior, and What Should Be

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    Bully

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    Bully and Netizens

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    Expert: Cynthia Lowen

    Website: Link

    Release Date: 2012-04-27

    Categories: All-or-Nothing Thinking, BEHAVIOR, Beliefs, Biases, Blame, Change, Competitive Thinking, Complex Realities, Cultures, Emotions, Empathy, Exclusionary Behavior, Extreme Thinking, Family, Fear of the Unknown, Friendships, Gender Roles, Happiness, HEALTH, Hidden Motives, Ideologies, Independent Thinking, Individuality, Information/Facts, Insincerity, KNOWLEDGE, Leadership, Learning, Learning from Failures, LGBTQ Issues, Logical Ethics, Lying, Mental Health, Negative Thinking, Other People Exist, Over-all Health, Physical Health, Power, Pride & Shame, Relationships, Revenge, Rewards and Punishments, Social Skills, Societies, Teachers and Mentors, The News Media, THINKING, This or That Thinking, Unhealthy Behavior, and What Should Be

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    Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close

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    Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close

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    Book Decription:

    A close friendship is one of the most influential and important relationships a human life can contain. Anyone will tell you that! But for all the rosy sentiments surrounding friendship, most people don’t talk much about what it really takes to stay close for the long haul.

    Now two friends, Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman, tell the story of their equally messy and life-affirming Big Friendship in this honest and hilarious book that chronicles their first decade in one another’s lives. As the hosts of the hit podcast Call Your Girlfriend, they’ve become known for frank and intimate conversations. In this book, they bring that energy to their own friendship—its joys and its pitfalls.

    An inspiring and entertaining testament to the power of society’s most underappreciated relationship, Big Friendship will invite you to think about how your own bonds are formed, challenged, and preserved. It is a call to value your friendships in all of their complexity. Actively choose them. And, sometimes, fight for them.

    Categories: All-or-Nothing Thinking, Ambiguity, BEHAVIOR, Beliefs, Biases, Blame, Change, Competitive Thinking, Complex Realities, Emotions, Empathy, Family, Fear of the Unknown, Friendships, Gender Roles, Gossips, Happiness, HEALTH, KNOWLEDGE, Learning, Learning from Failures, Logical Ethics, Mental Health, Negative Thinking, Opinions, Other People Exist, Pride & Shame, Regrets, Relationships, THINKING, This or That Thinking, Unhealthy Behavior, and What Should Be

    Author: Aminatou Sow

    Author: Ann Friedman

    Website: Link

    Publisher: Simon Schuster

    Publishing Date: 2020-07-14

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    Dr. Carol Tavris

    / BEHAVIOR, Beliefs, Biases, Blame, Change, Competitive Thinking, Cultures, Exclusionary Behavior, Fear of the Unknown, Gender Roles, Hidden Motives, Insincerity, KNOWLEDGE, Leadership, Learning, Learning from Failures, Logical Ethics, Lying, Other People Exist, Power, Pride & Shame, Rewards and Punishments, Societies, Teachers and Mentors, THINKING, This or That Thinking, Unhealthy Behavior, What Should Be / By

    Dr. Carol Tavris

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    Biography:

    Dr. Carol Tavris’s work as a writer, teacher, and lecturer has been devoted to educating the public about psychological science. Her book with Elliot Aronson, “Mistakes Were Made (But Not by ME): Why we justify foolish beliefs, bad decisions, and hurtful acts” (revised edition, 2015, and most recently updated in 2020 with a new chapter–“Dissonance, Democracy, and the Demagogue”), applies cognitive dissonance theory to a wide variety of topics, including politics, conflicts of interest, memory (everyday and “recovered”), the criminal justice system, police interrogation, the daycare sex-abuse epidemic, family quarrels, international conflicts, and business. Her latest book, with oncologist Avrum Bluming, is “Estrogen Matters” (Little, Brown Spark, 2018). In addition to writing essays and book reviews, she contributes a column for Skeptic magazine, “The Gadfly.”

    Main expertice: BEHAVIOR, Beliefs, Biases, Blame, Change, Competitive Thinking, Cultures, Exclusionary Behavior, Fear of the Unknown, Gender Roles, Hidden Motives, Insincerity, KNOWLEDGE, Leadership, Learning, Learning from Failures, Logical Ethics, Lying, Other People Exist, Power, Pride & Shame, Rewards and Punishments, Societies, Teachers and Mentors, THINKING, This or That Thinking, Unhealthy Behavior, and What Should Be

    Website: Link

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    Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions and Hurtful Acts

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    Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions and Hurtful Acts

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    Why do people dodge responsibility when things fall apart? Why the parade of public figures unable to own up when they screw up? Why the endless marital quarrels over who is right? Why can we see hypocrisy in others but not in ourselves? Are we all liars? Or do we really believe the stories we tell?

    Renowned social psychologists Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson take a compelling look into how the brain is wired for self-justification. When we make mistakes, we must calm the cognitive dissonance that jars our feelings of self-worth. And so we create fictions that absolve us of responsibility, restoring our belief that we are smart, moral, and right — a belief that often keeps us on a course that is dumb, immoral, and wrong.

    Categories: All-or-Nothing Thinking, BEHAVIOR, Beliefs, Biases, Blame, Change, Cultures, Exclusionary Behavior, Fear of the Unknown, Gender Roles, Hidden Motives, Ideologies, Insincerity, KNOWLEDGE, Leadership, Learning, Learning from Failures, Logical Ethics, Lying, Opinions, Other People Exist, Power, Pride & Shame, Social Skills, Societies, THINKING, This or That Thinking, Unhealthy Behavior, and What Should Be

    Author: Dr. Carol Tavris

    Website: Link

    Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt

    Publishing Date: 2007-05-07

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    Lori Gottlieb

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    Lori Gottlieb

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    Lori Gottlieb is an American writer and psychotherapist. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which is being adapted as a TV series. She also writes the weekly “Dear Therapist” advice column for The Atlantic and is the co-host of the iHeart Radio podcast “Dear Therapists.” Her TED Talk was one of the top ten most watched talks of the year.

    Main expertice: All-or-Nothing Thinking, BEHAVIOR, Beliefs, Blame, Change, Competitive Thinking, Emotions, Empathy, Exclusionary Behavior, Extreme Thinking, Family, Happiness, HEALTH, Hidden Motives, Information/Facts, Insincerity, KNOWLEDGE, Learning from Failures, Lying, Mental Health, Negative Thinking, Other People Exist, Regrets, Relationships, Social Skills, Therapy, THINKING, This or That Thinking, Unhealthy Behavior, and What Should Be

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    Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

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    Book Decription:

    One day, Lori Gottlieb is a therapist who helps patients in her Los Angeles practice. The next, a crisis causes her world to come crashing down. Enter Wendell, the quirky but seasoned therapist in whose office she suddenly lands. With his balding head, cardigan, and khakis, he seems to have come straight from Therapist Central Casting. Yet he will turn out to be anything but.

    As Gottlieb explores the inner chambers of her patients’ lives — a self-absorbed Hollywood producer, a young newlywed diagnosed with a terminal illness, a senior citizen threatening to end her life on her birthday if nothing gets better, and a twenty-something who can’t stop hooking up with the wrong guys — she finds that the questions they are struggling with are the very ones she is now bringing to Wendell.

    Categories: All-or-Nothing Thinking, BEHAVIOR, Beliefs, Biases, Blame, Competitive Thinking, Emotions, Empathy, Exclusionary Behavior, Family, Gender Roles, Happiness, HEALTH, Hidden Motives, Information/Facts, Insincerity, KNOWLEDGE, Learning from Failures, Lying, Medical Experts, Mental Health, Negative Thinking, Other People Exist, Over-all Health, Regrets, Relationships, Social Skills, Therapy, THINKING, This or That Thinking, Unhealthy Behavior, and What Should Be

    Author: Lori Gottlieb

    Website: Link

    Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt

    Publishing Date: 2019-04-02

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